What Are Family Constellations?

Family constellations are a powerful tool to support us through times of difficulty. They always speak of the past—sometimes our own, and often intertwined with the challenging destinies of our ancestors.

Until this past is acknowledged and brought into order, the difficulty tends to persist. This is where a constellation comes in, offering a way to see what happened (through a representation). Once we can witness it with love and respect, life can begin to flow abundantly again.

Family constellations are grounded in Systemic Philosophy. Bert Hellinger called it the Orders of Love, which are: inclusion (everyone has the right to belong), order (we each arrive in our own time), and balance (a necessary harmony between giving and receiving).

Systemic philosophy helps us understand the underlying rules and signals of life, and once we know them, we can navigate more securely.

What Does It Mean to Take Part in a Constellation?

Taking part usually means representing in another participant’s constellation—that is the main role. And does it help? Yes, because you also receive something for yourself. Often, through representing, we learn that reconciliation is the most powerful path to peace, and until we experience it, we are missing the key to truly understand it.

This is why representation is so important.

It also teaches us to recognise and understand our emotions, our reactions, where they come from, and how we communicate.

And to Hold a Constellation?

To hold a constellation is to bring your own issue or difficulty to be worked on. It is briefly presented, because when we over-explain, it often means we are reluctant to step out of the difficulty itself, however challenging it may feel.

If you have any questions or doubts, I will be happy to answer—please feel free to get in touch.